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Mom Guilt

͞Guilt͟, I know I’ve already expressed this, but I don’t care for that emotion much.  Then, add a ͞mom͟ in front of it ͞mom guilt͟! Whoa.It starts almost immediately upon discovering your pregnant.  It begins with the guilt of what you should and should not consume when developing your fetus.  The ͞do’s͟ and ͞don’ts͟ list of what to eat and drink during pregnancy becomes, notjust your choice, but the opinion of the world!  It used to be that women didn’t know better so they would drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes, diet with pills, all while pregnant.  Studies have definitely proven that these things are not healthy for a developing babies body and mind.  I accept!  But then,  there is the hidden list, that which seems to be created by whomever feels like they want a say so.

This could creep up at times when you least expect it, sometimes from complete strangers.  Then, the baby is born and there is a sigh of relief, you think the guilt has ended.  The secret no one tells you is, it never ends, it’s just getting started.  Breast feeding, can you? Will you? Do you want to? And for how long?  OMG.  Anyone, mom or dad whose lived through this  knows the breast feeding pressures and opinions.  ͞Formula͟becomes a bad word.  Then the food, organic baby food or not?  Food choices in general.   The real bomb drops when you decide, do I continue to work???  Ahhhh…the unspoken, opinions and emotions on this issue.  It is the gift that keeps giving.  In my line of work, I sometimes am required to work on one of my four children’s birthday.

I’m available to celebrate the days and weeks before and after, but just not that one special day.  Here’s me, how do I respond?  Buying and providing all their favorite indulgence foods.  Doughnuts for breakfast, cake or pie at dinner, just to alleviate my guilt.It’s a prime example of making things better with food.  For that I am guilty.

Katie O'Reilly
Katie O'Reilly
Truly a trendsetter, Culinary Artist Katie O’Reilly is a wholly unique talent in the overcrowded food industry. Her all-encompassing knowledge of all things food, combined with her artistic passion and educated and extensive palette, and added to the fact that she feeds over 40,000 guests each year, has elevated Katie’s culinary designs to the rarefied air of creativity and flavor profiles that only the top chefs enjoy.


  1. Dorothy says:

    As we get older moms and their guilt gets moved to the back door of life. The wonderful things we have done and continue to do takes over. The never ending love we have for our children and loved ones supersedes the guilt. Have another doughnut life is too short.

  2. M says:

    My mom would always celebrate our birthdays for the whole week, because she landed up working too. Having a week long party with no chores made it fun!

  3. Cristina says:

    The guilt is never ending but I have to take time for myself as well otherwise I’d go crazy!!!

  4. vieve says:

    Thanks for sharing. Great post!

  5. Elisabeth says:

    Being a single mother, my mom either missed my or my sisters birthday! To help with the guilt! That whole week we were able to eat sweets and junk food that normally, we did not even have in the house. Great post!

  6. S says:

    Awesome Post! I feel like that is a very common thing.

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